I help people live their lives authentically and on their terms by assisting them to recognize their core needs, desires, and what they genuinely value. This liberates them from external pressures telling who they should be, what they should want for relationships, and how they should express their sexuality.
Authenticity is key to our emancipation. It’s knowing the core of what we really value, what we genuinely desire and our individual needs so that we can live a life that is in alignment with our genuine selves and be fulfilled. Without that connection to the self we get cut off from our personal power that impedes us from being sexually authentic.
So why sexual authenticity? It’s simple. Sexuality is one of the most powerful spheres of control in our lives because it is so innately personal. We do not have to explain ourselves for our sexuality, justify our sexuality or even share our sexuality unless we choose too. That’s a unique opportunity for self-expression we are seldom offered in this world – and yet there is still so much pressure to do all those things; to explain, to justify, to share.
We face a bombardment of external pressures telling us what we should want from relationships, or how we should behave sexually. We might have grown up in a religious institution or family that viewed sex negatively and left us with a lot of shame. We might have really been through experiences that left us hurting and hesitant to open ourselves up to the kind of vulnerability relationships require. All these things can drive a wedge between us and our authentic sexuality.
Inauthentic sexuality robs us! It robs us of pleasure, freedom, and connection. It keeps us trapped in what we settle for instead of what we really want. It causes us to doubt ourselves at an extremely basic level – and you can be sure that lack of trust radiates out into every aspect of our daily lives, whether that’s interacting with our partners, being confident at work, or being at peace in our spirit.
I believe that my life’s work is to assist people to find success, fulfillment and the ability to live inter-connected, rich, deeply intimate, powerful and pleasurable lives, with a special emphasis on personal and sexual authenticity.
As a sex positive clinician, coach, educator, mentor, trainer and relationships expert, I honor my beliefs and my values of authenticity, curiosity, practice, commitment, integrity, connection, eroticism and synergy in his work.
My inspiration comes from many traditions including power dynamics, mysticism, Tantra, various spiritual paths including Christianity, Buddhism, Deism, and Native American spirituality resulting in a perspective that is broad and deep. This allows him to provide a setting in which clients have the opportunity to access their own inner resources and wisdom.
Among my areas of expertise are Kink/BDSM Coaching, Sex Coaching, Coaching Non-Monogamous Alternative Lifestyles, and Relationship Coaching employing an integrative multifaceted approach to guide individuals, couples or poly relationships to best support you toward personal and sexual authenticity.
Our combined strengths and expertise allow us to customize a program that fits your needs. In addition to verbal sessions, other modalities may be incorporated including, meditation, hypnosis, breath work, role play and hands-on bodywork, skill development, lifestyle immersion, as well as technique and application training to help you achieve your goals to both live life and express your authentic sexuality in your journey of life.
My 1-on-1 coaching is available for a limited number of clients so I can dedicate myself fully to your growth.
There is no quick-fix. It takes time to identify and tease out the old stories and expected ways of being imposed by family, friends, religious institutions, community, society, and wounds that need healing and to develop the skills that will help you have a more fulfilling and sexually authentic life.
If you are looking for a quickie, a one-time advice solution, I’m not a good fit for your needs. If your desire is to live a life of personal and sexual authenticity–Invest in Your Personal and Sexual Fulfillment by beginning your journey toward authenticity today. Contact me through our website [The Kink Doctor][http://thekinkdoctor.com]